Ashley Franklin

Why I Wrote about My "Failed" Ramadan

Yesterday, I had a piece published in Romper that discussed my first “failed” Ramadan. You can find it here.
We are naturally inclined to hide our faults. After all, we want others to think of us fondly or in a positive manner. Then why did I choose to discuss the time when I did not complete my Ramadan fast as I’d expected? Easy: I thought that maybe it could help someone.
No one wants to fail at anything. No Muslim wants to have an unsuccessful Ramadan. It can be an isolating feeling. After all, Ramadan isn’t supposed to be easy, right? Eh–not so much. Ramadan shouldn’t feel like an impossible task. If there is something causing Ramadan to feel particularly cumbersome for you, I encourage you to reach out to someone. Find that auntie you trust. Consult with your imam. Seek those who are more knowledgeable than you are, and make dua.
While I may not have been able to successfully fast for my second Ramadan, I didn’t feel like a failure thanks to having a support system.
For my fasting brothers and sisters in Islam, during this blessed month of fasting, I pray that your fast is accepted and that you feel the love of your community. Ramadan Mubarak.
And to my friends of no faith or other faiths, thank you for the “Happy Ramadan” messages.
Much love to all!

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Of course, hard work, but LUCK!

Hey, writer! Clearly we work hard to hone our crafts. Some of us spend years in the query trenches. Many of us spend a great deal of money  on critiques, books, conferences, and courses. Does that guarantee our success? Absolutely not.
When you are frustrated, and maybe even irritable, with where you are in your writing journey, please don’t forget how subjective this all is.
I’m still toiling away even though I have an agent now. (See, getting an agent is just one hurdle of many. It’s not the golden ticket to being published.)
You may feel that you’re doing everything right and getting nowhere. You could be write. Despite all of your hard work, you may still need the stars to align and the right editor to champion your work.
Don’t underestimate the role of luck in all of this. Just know that out of 365 days, one of them is likely to be your lucky day.
Let’s keep writing!
 
 

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